October 1, 2017

Our Newest Chapter

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Boy, has it been an interesting last 6 months. 

If we’re friends on Facebook or you follow my Instagram (aka where I spam you with adorable pictures of my children and the occasional selfie), you’re already up to speed on the latest and greatest changes for our family.  But if this is the first you’re hearing of anything new, well… let’s just say 2017 is nothing like what I thought it would be! 

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Talk about an unexpected plot twist!  This time last year I was 35 weeks pregnant with Simon, and believe me when I say a job change and a major move was NOT on my radar at all.  

The short version of the story is that I was contacted right before Lent began to see if I was open to even entertaining the idea of taking a new position in the Diocese of Tyler.  For weeks, I thought “There’s NO WAY God’s calling us to move… We just bought a house!”  But over and over again in prayer the Lord kept saying “You don’t think I can handle a house?  Of all the things?  It’s just a house.” 

Good point Lord.  So I put together my Curriculum Vitae and emailed it at the beginning of Holy Week, the beginning of May I interviewed, the end of May I accepted, and on June 30th we moved to Tyler, TX.  I started my job as the Director of Family Life in the Diocese of Tyler on July 10th. 

And our house?  We got an offer after it had been on the market 1 month and we closed on it last week.

God is good. God is faithful. 

2

Since the move happened so fast we decided to rent for this first year, catch our breath and figure out where exactly we want to live in Tyler.

About a week before we left Dodge City we found this house which is the closest thing to country living that I’ve ever experienced. 

Our house is on half an acre, and it backs up to our landlord’s property which contains lots of cows, a few horses, two goats, some chickens… and apparently our house came equipped with country mice too.  

We have a beautiful front porch and back deck, and the kids love seeing the animals, especially the cows that gather at the front gate every morning. 

It’s a little bit of a drive, but we knew that would be a change moving to a larger city.  Gone are the days of living 5 minutes from everything, and shopping at the 1 Walmart in town.  Last weekend we realized that there were more businesses on the road we were driving on than there were in all of Dodge City.  Hello Chick-fil-a.  Hello Target.  Hello Budget.  

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One of the main reasons that we considered this move so seriously is Family. In Dodge City, we were about 15-16 hours from my family and 10-12 hours away from Michael’s family. Now, we’re 6 hours from my family and 45 minutes from Michael’s family.  Minutes!      I think the kids have spent more time with their grandparents the past 2 ½ months than they have their entire lives!  It’s been amazing!

This move has given me a deep appreciation for our families.  The day we moved here we had so many family members over at the house helping to unpack.  During the 3 weeks that I was here by myself with the kids while Michael finished things in Dodge, I had an incredible amount of support from my parents and from my in-laws.  I really couldn’t have made it through those first few weeks without family!  And they continue to support us. 

And I gotta say, one of my favorite moments of this year, hands down, is the phone call we made to Michael’s parents to tell them that we were moving back to Texas.  I think we got a bigger squeal of joy out of them than the first time we told them we were pregnant!  😊 

4

Guess who started walking at 9 months and has 5-6 teeth? Simon’s development over the past several months has been shocking. Alexandria didn’t start crawling until maybe 9-10 months, and she was walking at 13 months.  Simon figured out how to crawl, standup, and took he first steps within a couple of months it seems.  SLOW DOWN KID.

One thing that I’m realizing more and more with each daily adventure is how different our kids are… and how different boys and girls are.  While both of our kids have a great deal of spunk, there’s a fearlessness and determination with Simon that can sometimes be a little alarming.  Climb onto the couch and then dive off?  Sure. And Alexandria… goodness that girl is 2 ½ going on 20.  She can be sassy, but she’s a smart kid.  Now if we can just get this potty training thing down…

5

My husband is amazing y’all.  

I know, I know…. It’s cheesy… but it’s TRUE! I need to write a whole separate post about this, but the chaos of this move and even making the decision to submit my Curriculum Vitae was not something I could have done without Michael. 

Moving was hard.   But I have really appreciated Michael’s patience and support.  We’re a team, and this entire process has given me a deeper awareness of the grace that comes from the Sacrament of Marriage, and gratitude that I’m married to my best friend. 

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It feel like this is the most significant “out of the boat moment” I’ve ever experienced…bigger than when I moved to Mexico, or when I moved to San Antonio or Dodge City…probably because this was a discernment that we made as a family.  

I won’t lie, this has been challenging.  As much as I love this new adventure, I miss the comforts of where we were.  It was safe!  We had good jobs, friends, community…we were comfortable.  But that’s what getting out of the boat is about! 

Peter knew Jesus was calling him, and he went for it.  But that didn’t mean the sea was immediately calmed.  Undoubtedly, it was scary out there!  But Jesus was with Peter, and he was right there when Peter started to sink. 

And that’s where we’re at right now… We know this where we are supposed to be, but those waves can be intimidating.  God is in this with us, and if we do sink?  He’s right there. 

April 13, 2017

New Life

Original photo by Francesco Gallarotti via Unplash

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It came out of no where.  

A little piece of green poking through the dead leaves and grass, trying to reach the surface.  It was the end of February, but there, on that bleak Kansas day was a little sign of new life.  

Weeks later, that little green stem burst upwards out of the Earth, and in what seemed like an overnight project there were daffodil blooms strung throughout our front and backyard.  

Let me back up and say, I am not the gardening type.  

And when I say I’m not the gardening type I mean I have never really enjoyed working outside.  

My parents can tell you many a story of how I whined and whimpered on yard work weekends, and I know there were more than a few plants that met their death when I was left home alone and tasked with watering.  

I’m not exactly what you’d call “outdoors-y”.  

But when we were house hunting in fall of 2015, one of the things that drew me to this house were the front and back yards.  I’m certain that the retired couple who lived here before us spent most of their time outside.  Flowers everywhere.  We moved in at the end of the year, and I told myself that come spring/summer I would be ready to become master gardener extraordinaire.  

Well, spring came… and flowers started growing… and I quickly realized I had no idea what I was doing.  I was also pregnant, and the thought of being outside in the heat, bent over, pulling up weeds and laying down mulch just wasn’t high on the priority list.  

My husband did a great job of taking care of our lawn, but when it came to the flower beds… we just sort of left everything alone.  So the flowers came… and I watched as daffodils, tulips, and irises came and went.  We discovered we have two peony bushes in the front yard, which were beautiful until the tornado/hail storm in late May… and stuff just kept growing.  And growing… and before we knew it there was a jungle of flowers and weeds lining our back fence.  

By the end of the summer I was 8 months pregnant and any energy that I might have had for cleaning up the yard was long gone.  

Now spring has sprung again, but this time we (and by “we” I mostly mean my incredible husband) are trying to be more intentional with the yard.  Michael cleared out a lot of the dead leaves and weeds, he put down mulch in the flower beds, planted grass seeds in our patchy yard, and eventually we’ll (yes we’ll) finish some much needed clean up.  

I think what I’m most surprised by is how excited I am to see things starting to grow again… and how much easier it is to differentiate between flowers and weeds before things get out of control.  When there’s no purposeful intention to care for the yard, stuff just grows.  Sure, there were some beautiful flowers that bloomed, but there were also a lot of weeds… some of which choked out the plants that were supposed to be there.  

The more time I spend in the yard, the more I see gardening as analogous to the spiritual life, especially as we approach Easter.  

During the Lenten season we strive to weed out the bad things in our lives.  Those 6 weeks are a time of not only removing things that hurt us, but it is also a time of trying to cultivate the good.  

The thing is, spiritual growth doesn’t just happen.  Sure, we can sit back, do the bare minimum (i.e. get to Mass once a week), and while that’s an important part, there has to be more intentional work that’s done on our souls if we really want to grow in virtue.  Daily prayer, frequenting the sacraments, acts of service, those are the kind of things that take us from “Well at least I’m not spiritually dead!” to really allowing God to work in and through us to create something beautiful.  

As Easter approaches, let’s take some time to think about what are the signs of New Life that God is revealing in us?  The bad habits we tried to let go of during Lent… what virtues are growing there instead? How are we going to continue to nurture our spiritual lives into the Easter season and beyond?  

Seeing new growth is exciting.  Whether it’s flowers, or seeing signs of spiritual maturity, those little buds of something new can inspire us to take the next step on the journey.  

What signs of New Life are you seeing as Lent comes to an end?

March 8, 2017

Lent: Not About The Perfect Start

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Lent is a season that pushes us  out of our comfort zones and asks us to dig deep and feel the burn of denying ourselves so that we can follow Christ better.  

That being said, it is also my least favorite season…probably because I need it so much.

I think it was about my sophomore year of college when Lent finally “clicked” with me.  It wasn’t just about giving up cable TV or chocolate for 6 weeks… it was a journey into deeper intimacy with the Lord.  And as I came to understand it as a journey, I also realized how important it was to prepare for that walk in the desert.  

I’d prepare by spending some extra time in prayer, usually in the adoration chapel, journaling my Lenten commitments so that I had a clear goal in mind. And the preparations weren’t limited to prayer; I would also try to get my living space as clean as possible before the Lenten journey began.  Sometimes I would rearrange the furniture in my bedroom, or just give it an early spring cleaning.  This was a way for me to enter into Lent with a breath of fresh air, a renewed mindset, and the visual difference in my environment helped me to focus on the fact that I was entering into a whole new season.  

Oh the glorious Lenten preparations of my life as a single woman in my early twenties!  

Fast forward about ten years.  

Married, two kids 2 and under, working full-time, and my husband and my daughter catch the flu (or something) a few days before Ash Wednesday.  

I made plans early in the week to clean our bedroom, the living room, the kitchen….  I was going to journal, perhaps even write my first blog post for the year to kick off the season with a bang!  Maybe I’d get some extra time in the prayer space my husband created for me for my birthday.  Such plans!!!

Tuesday night I found myself in a living room of unfolded laundry, mountains of tissues, a fussy toddler, and after kids were asleep I had to run up to the Church to get some things set up for the Ash Wednesday Masses the next morning.  Though I did manage to get to the sacrament of reconciliation that evening, by the end of the day I mostly felt disappointed.  

I wasn’t ready.  How on earth could I possibly have a good Lent if my house is dirty, my family is sick, and I haven’t spent time in prolonged silent prayer?  And to top it off I could feel the cold coming after me too!  I went to bed frustrated and thought, If I can’t start Lent perfectly, according to my plan then what’s the point?!

Oh wait… 

In those final moments of the day, I realized that perhaps I’d been focusing too much on starting Lent perfectly.   I had been trying so hard to replicate the “perfect preparations” of my early 20s that I had forgotten to ask God to help me in the here and now.  I’m not who I was at 19, 20, or 21 years old.  My relationship with God and my spiritual life have changed a lot even since getting married 3 years ago!  Why would I expect to start this journey in the same way I had almost a decade before?  

I had forgotten that God doesn’t ask us to enter into Lent with a clean slate and then maintain perfection until Easter Sunday.  No, instead He invites us to take up our cross, wherever we are, and follow Him.  He invites us to turn towards Him with our mess, our pain, our weakness so that through the Lenten journey He c
an make us new.  

Do I have an idea of the praying, fasting and almsgiving that God is calling me to offer this Lenten season?  Yes.  Am I perfectly prepared for what’s ahead these next 6 weeks?  Nope.  And that’s OK.  

Lord, meet us in our mess this Lent.
 Meet us in the chaos, the confusion, the messy house.  
Meet us in the snot covered noses of our children,
and the never ending lists of things to do.
Draw us close to you, even though we are imperfect.  
Lord, you make all things new.  Make us new this Lenten season.
 

January 7, 2017

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December 31, 2016

Just Be With Him

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The night before Christmas Eve I was in a minor panic.  

Alright, let’s be honest… I was a hot mess.

There was so much I wanted to get done before Christmas… how was I supposed to get it all done?  The house was a disaster, there were gifts to be wrapped, and we still had not decided if we were going to brave the overflowing 5:00pm Mass or try our hand at the 10:00pm Mass with two little ones (under two). 

When we finally got our toddler in bed and the baby settled, all I could think about was how much we still needed to do!  All the cleaning… all the wrapping.. all the things!  Michael did his best to try to keep me calm and reassured me that even if all the things didn’t get done, Christmas would still come and we would still be fine.  

But all the things we need to do!!!

Before I finally went to bed, I made a long list of all of the things that (I thought) needed to get done before we went to Christmas Eve Mass.  There was laundry, the kitchen, presents for my husband and the kids, presents for our godsons that needed to be wrapped, we needed to go up to the Church to help put some things in the pews in the morning, we needed to prep things for Christmas morning breakfast with friends, oh yeah and at some point in the day I needed to shower and wash my hair.  

List maker that I am, writing everything down was helpful in the sense that I knew everything I wanted to tackle on December 24th.  We’d wake up and start doing all the things, because all the things needed to get done.  

Christmas Eve morning, after what was probably a rough night of sleeping for me and the baby, I woke up to the happy shouts of our daughter, Alexandria, standing beside the bed.  “Hi Mommy!  Good morning!”  It’s worth mentioning that Alexandria is the happiest morning person I’ve ever met.  I have no idea where she got it from.  

In her typical toddler fashion, Alexandria told me about her baby, some other toy, and then very loudly pointed out her brother sleeping next to my bed.  I pulled her up on the bed while Michael went to make breakfast.  Alexandria went through her morning litany of requests, “Cold milk please.  Oranges please….”

Just before my mind could wander off to my “things to do” list, Alexandria got very quiet and wiggled her way into the blankets.   “Nuggle?”  (Snuggle) she said,  resting her head against me with her arms around my side.  

And for just a minute, maybe longer, maybe less, this incredibly busy little person was just with me.  No demands or commentary.  She just wanted to be with me.  It was amazing.  And as a Mom it was one of those moments you try writing on your heart so you never forget it.  

Then, just as quickly as the moment came, it was over.  Alexandria sat up, mumbled something about needing to see Daddy, and she plowed her way over my belly, slid off the bed, and ran on to the next pressing thing on her toddler agenda for the day.  

I looked on my side table and saw my “things to do” list for December 24th.  It was going to be a busy day.   Cleaning, wrapping, planning…

And then I remembered my moment with Alexandria, specifically how as her Mama I really enjoyed that rare quiet moment with my child and how I wish it had lasted just a little bit longer.  

Ah yes, I see what you did there Lord.  

How often do I dive into the “To Do List” without starting my day with God?  How often do I quiet myself long enough to just be with Him?  No demands, no commentary, no agenda.  Just me and Jesus.  

When do I make time for that kind of silence?  

I’m still adjusting to this role of being a wife, mother of 2, and working full-time.  If there is one thing that I know I need to focus in this New Year it is learning how to just be with Him.  Whether it’s a silent moment in prayer before the kids wake up, or time in the adoration chapel, there has to be time to just sit with the Lord in a quiet space.  

Yes, there are certainly times for giving the Lord our long list of intercessions.  And of course there are times when we need to quiet ourselves so we can hear what the Lord is whispering on our hearts.  But there is also a need for that sacred silence, those moments where we just sit with Him.  

We look at Him, and He looks at us… nothing more is needed than to rest in that moment.  

There are plenty of things that I know I’d like to do in this New Year.  It’s tempting to make the list and run forward without a second thought.  After all, there is SO MUCH that needs to get done right?  Cleaning, unpacking, organizing, finding time to exercise, keeping the family watered and fed… all the things.  

There’s a time for list making and goal setting.  The start of the New Year is a great time to do that.  But in the midst of all the making and doing, let’s find time to just be with Him.  

It could be the most important thing we do this year.