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October 20, 2015

Still At the Beginning {2nd Anniversary}

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On October 5th my husband and I celebrated our second wedding anniversary.  Two years… I can hardly believe that much time has passed.  We’ve learned and experienced a lot in these first two years of marriage, but I also realize that we are still very much at the beginning of a lot of new adventures. 
A couple in our parish recently celebrated 50 years of marriage.  Before their renewal of vows, the priest spoke about how when a couple walks down the aisle and stands at the foot of the altar on their wedding day they have no idea what they are saying “yes” to.   
Sure, God willing they completely intend every word that is spoken during the exchange of vows, but there’s no way for a newlywed couple to anticipate all that will come in the decades ahead, no way to know what that “yes” will cost them.  And if we did somehow get a sneak peak of the crosses married life would bring with it, would we be as enthusiastic to say “yes”?
I can’t imagine all that this couple has experienced in the last 50 years of marriage, all of the joys and the sufferings…   but I’m sure they would say that it has been completely worth it.

One of the most beautiful things about the sacrament of marriage is that we receive the grace that we need to say “yes”.   There’s no way we can live out God’s free, total, faithful, and fruitful love by our own efforts.  There’s no way we could love unconditionally without some Divine Intervention.  The vocation we embrace as married couples is to help our spouses and our children become saints.  We need all the extra help we can get!!

The day before our anniversary this song from the movie “Anastasia” got stuck in my head.  

We were strangers starting out on a journey
Never dreaming what we’d have to go through
Now here we are and I’m suddenly standing
At the beginning with you

No one told me I was going to find you
Unexpected, what you did to my heart
When I lost hope, you were there to remind me
This is the start…
In two years of marriage we’ve learned a lot about ourselves, one another… life… but I know there’s still a lot of learning to do.  God willing there are still decades worth of new experiences and life lessons ahead of us.  The best part of all of this is that we aren’t facing any of this on our own. 
In our second year we experienced one of the most exciting new beginnings of all:  the birth of our first child.  I think Michael would agree that becoming parents has been one of the most wonderful, happy, frustrating, sleep depriving, sometimes disgusting (did you know there’s such a thing as projectile poop?! Neither did we, lesson learned.) and hilarious experiences of our entire lives.  And we are so grateful that God called us to this messy vocation ๐Ÿ™‚
I am looking forward to other beginnings as we enter Year 3.  In fact, one “new beginning” is already underway.  The night before our anniversary we received a phone call that our offer had been accepted on a house.  Our first home!  As I’m sure you can imagine, this is a pretty major step for our family.  After a lot of prayer and discernment (and a lot of “Are you sure about that Lord?“) we are putting down deeper roots.  We’re excited, surprised, and doing our best to surrender our plans to God’s hands. 
What continues to give me peace and joy in the midst of all of these new beginnings is that we aren’t going through any of them on our own.  God has been part of our story from the very beginning and it is comforting to know that He will continue to be part of every step.  

be at peace
walk on water
be not afraid